MARY SAID YES TO LIFE

Sunday, December 11, 2011

HI,
I HAVE BEEN BUSY PAINTING ON WHITE CANVAS - MY YOUNGEST SON'S ROMPERS! YEAH, THEY MAKE EXCELLENT MESSAGE BOARDS FOR PROLIFE MESSAGES. SEE THE TWO I DID TODAY. HOPE U GET INSPIRED TO DO SOMETHING SIMILAR YOURSELF WITH YOUR KIDS' T-SHIRTS. GOD BLESS.
AURIEL

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

THE DUGGAR COUPLE LETTERS TO MOTHERS & FATHERS. (taken from their site duggar.com)

Message to Mothers from Michelle
It was 1:00 AM in the morning as I stood folding laundry with tears streaming down my cheeks. Feelings of being overwhelmed flooded my mind. I cried aloud, "LORD I NEED YOUR HELP, I can't do it all! I feel so inadequate! Diapers, dishes, laundry, meals, cleanup, school lessons, baths, hugs, kisses, correction..." My list seemed to go on and on.
Then it was as if a still small voice said, "Michelle, it's easy to praise ME when things are going good, but are you willing to praise ME now?" Immediately the scripture that says, "Offer up a sacrifice of praise", came to mind.
I said, "OK Lord, I will praise you even now! It really is a sacrifice!" So through the tears I began to sing, "The joy of the Lord is my strength". In my heart there was a release as if a burden had been lifted. I finished the laundry at 2 AM and went to bed.
Days later, I was at our piano teacher's home (at 7 AM) trying to catch up on paperwork while the children were taking their lessons. Instead, I kept drifting off to sleep! The teacher noticed and asked, "Are you OK?" I replied, "I'm fine, I'm just tired. I was up late finishing laundry."
As we talked more she said that she actually enjoyed doing laundry and that she would be glad to come and help me! That weekend when she arrived we had mountains of dirty laundry, and when she left we had nice, neat, orderly stacks of clean laundry! For 12 years now, our piano teacher, whom we consider a part of our family and loving call "NaNa" has faithfully come (now twice a week) to help us with laundry! GOD sent "An angel" in answer to my cry for help.
He is faithful to hear the humble cries of his children. "Humble thyself in the sight of the Lord and He will lift you up." God lifted my burden (literally mountains of laundry!) and freed me to meet the more urgent needs of my family. "Now unto Him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, unto Him be glory..."
Remember mothers, where God guides He provides!

With Love,
Michelle
Proverbs 3:5-7

A Message to Fathers from Jim Bob
When Michelle and I first married, we thought we might have one or two children. Four years into the marriage, we had our first child. After that, Michelle went back on the birth control pill. She ended up getting pregnant while on the pill and had a miscarriage.
We were so grieved. We did not know that sometimes the pill allows you to get pregnant but then causes a miscarriage. We thought we could set our own timetable for having children, for example- when we were "financially able," or when we "had all our ducks in a row."
We read in the Bible that God says that children are a blessing and a reward from Him (Psalms 127:1-5). We had been rejecting His gifts. At that point, we prayed and asked God to forgive us and we gave Him this area of our lives. We said, "Lord, help us to love children the way that you love children, and Lord we want to receive each one as a gift from you."
At the same time we made this commitment, we attended a Financial Freedom Seminar conducted by Jim Sammons. Mr. Sammons challenged us from God's Word in Romans 13:8 to "owe no man anything but love." So we purposed to get out of debt and stay out of debt. We have seen God do miracles, as He has multiplied our children, He has multiplied our provisions and met our needs every step of the way.
May God bless you as you follow His Spirit and purpose to give Him every area of your life.


Sincerely,
Jim Bob Duggar

P.S. A great way to start being the spiritual leader and coach of your home is to ask Jesus to forgive you for the things you have done wrong (1 John 1:9) and ask Him to take over the steering wheel of your life. (Ask your wife and children for forgiveness also.) God has promised He will freely give the ability to make wise decisions to anyone who asks and seeks Him (James 1:5). Purpose to read the chapter of Proverbs that corresponds to the day of the month with your family daily. Also, commit to pray with your wife everyday. Start protecting your family by removing books, magazines, television, or internet that have worldly or sensual content. Replace them with good things like wholesome music, biographies of great Christians, good old-fashioned family fun and games. Love God with your whole heart and look for opportunities to serve others as a family and tell others about our Saviour.

Saturday, November 19, 2011

DUGGAR FAMILY FACTS (Taken from website duggar.com)

Bob & Michelle Duggar married July 21st, 1984. At that time, they chose to use the birth control pill. They thought, “We don’t want children right now. We can’t afford them. We want children in our timing, when we’re ready.” Four years later they decided to have their first child. Then, Michelle went back on the pill, but she conceived and had a miscarriage. At that point they talked with a Christian medical doctor and read the fine print in the contraceptives package. They found that while taking the pill you can get pregnant and then miscarry. They were grieved! They realized that their selfish actions had taken the life of their child.
They prayed and asked God to forgive them, and to teach them to love children like He loves children. They asked God to bless them with as many children as He saw fit in His timing. Right after that Michelle got pregnant with twins! To date they have been blessed with 19 children, (10 boys and 9 girls) Joshua (& wife Anna), Jana & John-David (twins), Jill, Jessa, Jinger, Joseph, Josiah, Joy-Anna, Jedidiah & Jeremiah (twins), Jason, James, Justin, Jackson, Johannah, Jennifer, Jordyn-Grace and Josie.
Over the years the Duggar's have been asked to do many interviews and have always accepted as they are excited to share with everyone how children are a blessing from the Lord.

Duggar Family FAQs
1. Please tell me how you and Jim Bob met and fell in love. When, where, etc...
Jim Bob attended a dating seminar at his family’s church in Junior High. In the seminar, teenagers were encouraged to make two important commitments: first, that they wouldn’t date anyone who wasn’t a Christian, and second, that they wouldn’t date anyone who didn’t love Jesus as much as they did. Jim Bob made both of those commitments—and at the same time, began praying for the girl, then unknown, who would become his wife.
Michelle’s family didn’t go to church during her growing up years, but one evening while her friend Janet Smith spent the night at her house, they discussed the end times and life after death. Michelle realized her need for God in her life. Janet invited her to attend a Michael Gott crusade at her church the following evening. Sitting there at the revival church service, Michelle heard that she could be forgiven for everything she had ever done wrong. She also heard that God loves her and has a special plan for her life. So, at the end of the service when the pastor invited those who wanted to give their lives to Jesus to come to the front, Michelle jumped out of her seat and flew down the aisle to accept that invitation. She remembers at the age of 15, singing from her heart, “I’m forgiven, now I have a reason for living, Jesus keeps giving and giving, giving till my heart overflows!”
About a month later, Jim Bob went out on Tuesday night church visitation with a friend named Fred Pearrow. Jim Bob was attending Shiloh Christian High School and Fred went to Springdale Public High School.
Jim Bob and Fred had three cards of people to go see. But no one had answered the doorbells at those homes. So Jim Bob and Fred prayed about who to visit. Then Fred said, “Hey I know a girl that just became a Christian, and she is a cheerleader.”
Jim Bob said, “Let’s go and see her!”
Fred just happened to know where she lived. Jim Bob and Fred drove to her house.
That’s how Jim Bob Duggar, Fred’s friend, ended up sitting quietly in Michelle Ruark’s living room that night, making almost no impression on Michelle at all. He was so quiet that today she barely has a memory of her future husband even being there.
Jim Bob, on the other hand, was completely smitten. He thought Michelle was the most beautiful girl he’d ever seen. He was even more impressed with Michelle’s desire to learn more about God. Terribly shy and still very short (today he’s six feet tall, but during his school days he was usually the shortest in his class), Jim Bob let Fred do all the talking while he sat, smiling nervously and nodding his head.
But while his lips were silent, his mind was soaring. As he and Fred left that night, he paused one long second in Michelle’s doorway, completely convinced he’d just met the girl he’d been praying for without knowing who she was. Oh, God, he prayed in that doorway, from the depths of my heart, I ask that Michelle could be mine and that I could become her spiritual leader.
A year went by. A year! Throughout that time, Jim Bob kept praying for Michelle, for their future together and for God’s guidance.
But did he call her? No.
Did he go back to her house with Fred for another visit? No.
Occasionally he spotted her from a distance when she visited their church with one of her friends, but he was too shy to say anything.
Then, because his family needed some extra income his mother took a job managing a frozen-yogurt shop. One day when Jim Bob picked up his mom after work, she mentioned that a girl named Michelle Ruark had applied for a job. She asked if Jim Bob knew her.
“Yes, I know her,” Jim Bob told his mom. “And you need to hire her!”
Michelle started working at the yogurt shop, and occasionally Jim Bob came by to pick up his mom or help with a repair job at the shop. Eventually he got up enough courage to overcome his shyness and ask Michelle for a date. He was so nervous and so shy he could barely get the words out. But when he finally did, she said yes.
They went to the junior-senior banquet at Jim Bob’s small Christian school. Although Michelle had gone out with other boys, this was her first “car date.” Jim Bob picked her up in his family’s little Mazda GLC. Neither of them ate much at the banquet, and their conversation there was polite but limited to chitchat. On the way home, Jim Bob let Michelle drive. She was just learning to drive a stick shift, and he told her the Mazda was so old and beat up it wouldn’t hurt if she had a fender-bender and added a few more dents. The real reason, he admitted later, was so he could cover her hand with his when she needed help shifting.
They drove to Michelle’s house—and talked for four hours. A lot of their conversation focused on their faith. Jim Bob shared a principle he’d learned in the dating seminar, about the relationship triangle that’s formed when a boy and girl set their hearts on God. God being at the top of the triangle, then the closer each one moves toward God, the closer the boy and girl move toward each other.
Michelle loved what she was hearing. That night, two hearts were knit together.
After Jim Bob left, Michelle stood in the doorway of her family’s home, watching him leave. Not knowing that Jim Bob had paused in prayer in that same doorway a year earlier, Michelle stood in the same spot and prayed, Lord, if this isn’t the one you have for me, I can’t imagine anyone better.
2. How did you come to the decision to have such a large family? Are you and Jim Bob from large families yourselves? Are each of your families supportive and involved in your lives with your children?
Jim Bob has one older sister that is three years older than him. Michelle is the baby of seven children.

When we first got married we thought we would have maybe two or three children...
Michelle started off our marriage taking the Birth control pill so we could plan when we wanted children. After three years, Michelle went off the pill and we had our first son Josh. We loved being Josh’s parents and getting to spend all our time with him, but we didn’t think we were ready for more children yet. So Michelle went back on birth control pills after Josh was born.

Then the unexpected happened, followed by the unthinkable: Michelle got pregnant, even though she was still taking birth control pills. We thought that was impossible, but we were surprised to find out different! Between her second and third month, Michelle miscarried. When the doctor told us the miscarriage probably happened because she had conceived while still on the pill, we were devastated. To us, it meant that something we had chosen to do—use the pill—had caused the end of the pregnancy.

As conservative Christians, we believe every life is sacred, even the life of the unborn. Due to our lack of knowledge, we destroyed the precious life of our unborn child. We prayed and studied the Bible and found a host of references that told us God considered children a gift, a blessing, and a reward. Yet we had considered having another child an inconvenience during that busy time in our lives, and we had taken steps to prevent it from happening.

We weren’t sure if Michelle could have any more children after the miscarriage, but we were sure we were going to stop using the pill. In fact we agreed we would stop using any form of birth control and let God decide how many children we would have. Just a couple of months later, Michelle became pregnant with twins. A double blessing!
At first our families had a lot of concerns for Michelle’s health and how would we be able to take care of and support our family. But over the years they have warmed up to the idea and have been understanding about our heart commitment to love children like God loves children.

“The Hidden Message of the Lost Pearl,” had a tremendous impact on us after experiencing our miscarriage. It’s used here by permission.
THE HIDDEN MESSAGE OF THE LOST PEARL
"When I was eleven years old, my family took a vacation in Florida. One morning my brother and I went swimming. The shallow water revealed an oyster bed. We began digging up oysters. It was great fun. During the morning we accumulated quite a collection.
"Our greatest finds were not the live oysters, but dead oysters which still had both halves of the shell joined together. Many were closed shut, and we didn't know until we had pried them open whether they were alive or not.
"The live ones we threw back. The empty ones usually did not reclose, but remained partly open. These we set aside as our most prized treasures.
"Toward the end of the morning, I dug up a very nice, complete oyster shell which was in perfect condition. It was obviously dead because it was already open about an eighth of an inch and seemed empty. It was definitely one that I wanted to keep, except for one flaw-it had some kind of object trapped inside that rattled. I thought it detracted from the quality of my shell.
"The halves of the shell were still very tight and were hard to budge with just my fingers. It took all of five minutes to remove this rather large, round, perfectly smooth object. Having successfully removed it, and being pleased with my now empty and unblemished shell, I threw the object toward the end of the pier.
"At about the midpoint of its flight, a horrifying light dawned in my mind. I was old enough to have known, but young enough to have overlooked the value of what I had just thrown away. I had treasured what was secondary and had lost what was real. My focus had been wrong.
"I visually marked the location of the splash. With great care I slowly approached the spot, trying not to disturb the bottom. For the next half hour I searched diligently.
"Finally, when it was time to leave, I told my parents what I had done. Then we all looked for it. Our efforts were useless and our time was up. Our schedule demanded that we leave.
"When I was twenty-five years old, I got married. For some undefined reason, I rejected for seven years the suggestion that we have children. I thought I had valid reasons, but no one had ever talked to me about it. I had received no counsel or teaching from family, friends, or church. No one seemed to consider it to be a critical issue. In addition, the world had all kinds of new medical methods for preventing pregnancy.
"As I look back, I don't remember hearing one dissenting voice. Down deep I always knew that I wanted children someday. I didn't really want to be childless all of my life. Eventually, I decided that I wanted five children. So, after seven years of some very difficult decision-making, we had our first child-a girl.
"To my great amazement, I found that I actually liked having children. In fact, having a child is one of the greatest things that has happened in our lives.
"The fears which had prevented conception for so long proved to be mostly imaginary. This new member of our family changed our lives. We discovered a multitude of rewards that we had not known we were missing.
"My wife and I have just been told that it now looks medically impossible for us to have any more children! Suddenly, all of our newly established family dreams have been erased. All of the excitement and anticipation of a newly discovered future have vanished. It seems as though there is a void in our lives-like four of our five children have just been killed.
"What makes the burden so heavy is that we had the treasure within our grasp and we threw it away. We saw the outer shell and mistakenly overlooked the treasure within. With our hands we plucked it out and cast it away. We tried to take God's timing into our own hands." (Taken from The True Significance of the Wedding Covenant, Copyright IBLP - used by permission)

3. What’s a typical day in your house like? How do you maintain control over what has to be pretty chaotic? How do you make a household of 19 people run smoothly?
Our #1 goal is to lead our children to seek a close relationship with God & give Him every area of their lives. We purpose to start each day with a family Bible study, reading a chapter of Proverbs that corresponds with the day of the month. We have heart to heart talks with each of the older children regularly. We try to keep up with their attitudes & actions...
We desire for each child to develop a learning spirit & a servant's heart that looks for opportunities to serve others. It is a joy to see our children becoming best friends. If they can learn to treat their brothers and sisters like they want to be treated, then they can learn to get along with just about anyone along life's way.
We try to begin our daily routine with personal hygiene (get dressed, brush teeth, comb hair, etc...). Each older child has a younger buddy (or two) that they help. We eat breakfast & read the Proverb of the day at 8:00AM, then we "quick clean" the house (older child & their buddy work together to clean their jurisdictions).
Throughout the day we try to pickup as we go along, but naturally things tend toward disorder. So, it is a constant training process with "quick clean" times throughout the day. At 9:00AM, the older children help their buddies with their studies in phonics, math, violin & piano (J-O-Y- Jesus first, Others second, & Yourself last!). Then the older children start their music & individual studies - Math, English, Spelling & Typing.
We break for lunch around 12PM. Often one of the older children help prepare lunch & we all help cleanup. After lunch we work to finish individual studies.
Around 1:30PM the little ones go down for naps (4 & under). Momma & older children gather around the table at 2:00PM for Wisdom Booklet group studies - science, history, law, medicine - part of our ATIA curriculm. We work on one subject until we complete the study. We also review & memorize scripture, hymns & operational definitions of character qualities. The children especially enjoy this because they make up motions to help with memorization.
At 4:00PM, we break from group study to complete individual studies, otherwise this is free time. Dinner is scheduled for 5:00PM. Some of the older girls prepare dinner & everyone helps cleanup. We do another "quick clean" of the house after dinner & then have free time. Some may still be finishing up music, seeing we have to take turns on the pianos with 11 students! 8PM is snack time. Then we start getting ready for bed (baths, brush teeth, pick out clothes for the next day).
9:00PM is Bible time with Daddy. This is probably our favorite time of day. Daddy reads the Bible & we discuss the passage together. We talk about the day & bring out points of how to apply what we have learned. We enjoy making up skits & acting out examples of right responses & wrong responses. Often our little ones will fall asleep as Daddy begins Bible time, still they love to be with us at this special time. Bedtime falls around 10:00PM.
We have a master schedule of each family member's responsibilities displayed on our kitchen wall. This idea came from the Maxwell's, "Managers of Their Homes". For each month, we also have individual daily checklists which cover schoolwork, chores, music lessons, & personal hygiene. These were designed by Daddy so we could see at a glance how each child is doing. These checklists enable us to keep our children accountable & also reward them accordingly.
We have goals, but then we have reality! We are learning to practice flexibility -Not setting our affections on ideas or plans which could be changed by God or others! Sometimes we have "Daddy Days" when Daddy overrides the schedule and takes the children out for family time, a field trip or a service project. We try to make each day fun. Everyday is an exciting adventure!
Matthew 6:33 says, "Seek ye first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you!"
II Corinthians 12:9 says," My grace is sufficient for thee: for my strength is made perfect in weakness. Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me."

4. How do you support such a large family? Especially with the economy the way it is these days, tips on how you manage to support so many people?
We have lived very frugally, and our family motto is to “Buy used and saved the difference!” We shop at thrift stores and garage sales...
About 19 years ago, I (Jim Bob) went to a bank to inquire about borrowing a large sum of money to expand my business. A few days later, a successful businessman invited the men from our church out to his house every Friday morning for breakfast and to watch the " Jim Sammon’s Financial Freedom Seminar". I agreed to attend, as well as 50 other men. After just seeing the first session, the truths from God's Word being taught through Mr. Sammons began to convict me of my need to "owe no man anything but love." I decided right then to postpone the loan. I continued to attend the seminar, and after 20 weeks (to my amazement), God totally changed my view of not only His purposes for finances, but also how we are to be wise stewards of everything God entrusts to us. Later that year, this man had the seminar at our church and Michelle & I were able to attend the seminar together. After we both heard the testimonies of God's methods for finances, Michelle & I purposed to become debt-free. As we have chosen to trust Him, I have seen God provide for our family in ways that are supernatural. I encourage every family to watch this seminar, the testimonies Jim Sammons shares are so encouraging that our family enjoys watching it together. He challenges you to give every area of your life to God. You can now purchase this seminar on DVD and the Men's Manual Vol. 2 textbook that goes with it for only $109. This will be the best investment you have ever made. It has saved us and made us thousands by applying Biblical principles to every decision of life. (We do not make anything off this we just want to encourage others with resources that have helped our family.)
5. You've had nineteen children! How have your last pregnancies been compared to your 1st?
As with any first time birth experience you might have fear of the unknown. As we approach each birth there are still the concerns of the unknowns such as the labor and delivery, each one has been different but having had the experience over and over does help some. Each time we have prayed for the health of mom and baby, and asked for a healthy, easy delivery...
.(As much as possible when were talking about labor!) I’ve had three C-sections, one with our second birth, twins, Jana and John-David, with our 15th, Jackson and with Jordyn-Grace. All the rest have been vaginal births, 13 of which have been VBAC’s. (Vaginal Birth After Cesarean) We were hoping to have another VBAC with this last delivery.

I would say the greatest change that I have seen in the field of obstetrics, and I might add that it is very troubling to me, is the idea that once you’ve had a C-section you must have a C-section for any other pregnancy. It is much healthier for mom and baby to avoid major surgery and all the complications that go along with a C-section if possible. Granted, there are health situations that would warrant such, but for years obstetrics encouraged TOL (Trial Of Labor after previous C-section) with many successful healthy vaginal births. It was quite alarming to be told that I could no longer have a vaginal birth due to hospital or insurance companies regulations. It appears that what is best for the patient is not the priority with this decision. I feel our health care is being jeopardized by this unhealthy approach. Doctors are having to tell their patients that they no longer offer VBAC assistance due to hospital regulations and some might even state to the patient that they are not safe so as to avoid confrontation. Statistics prove much differently. For the many women that find themselves in this situation, ICAN is an organization that is very helpful in gaining more information on this topic. One of which I believe will be reversed in the near future as more women make a clear statement to health care providers and insurance companies as to how they would prefer to deliver there babies in a safer, healthier manner. (Now I will step off my soapbox!)

We are thankful our hospital allows trying a VBAC as long as they have an anesthesialogist on hand in case there is an emergency. On Thursday, December 18th we went to get Michelle checked by the doctor after Michelle had been having labor pains throughout the night. The doctor checked her and said she was dialated to about 4cm, but the baby was transverse like her brother Jackson had been.
Jordyn-Grace Makiya Duggar had to be delivered via C--section. We are thankful Jordyn-Grace is healthy and Michelle is recovering quickly.

6. How does it feel after all those pregnancies? Is it physically easier now than it was in the beginning or more difficult? In what ways?
I don’t think you can call labor and delivery easy no matter how many times you have been through it. Yes, experience helps a lot in working through the whole labor process but like I mentioned previously each labor is different and you just have to prepare yourself health wise and...
in every other way to work toward the goal of having the healthiest delivery as is possible on your part. Good nutrition plays a big part in that. Also, we’ve gone through Bradley childbirth classes and have regular OB checkups throughout pregnancy.

In 2003, I joined Weight Watcher’s and lost 40 pounds! I feel great, not carrying around all that extra weight. I have more energy and am much more active. (The weight gain I experienced kind of snuck up on me! I hung onto just 2 and 3 pounds after each pregnancy.) I needed the accountability to help take it off, and the healthy lifestyle of eating that is encouraged in Weight Watcher’s has been a blessing to me and now to my family as well.

7. When you have to concentrate on running such a large family, how do you allow each child to shine individually?
Praise your children ten times more than you correct them! That is the counsel we received early on and what we have attempted to do all these years. Granted we have not always successfully carried it out everyday but that has been our goal. Praising good character instead of flattering...
is a learned technique! It’s fine to occasionally praise the outward beauty of a daughter, but if that is all you praise, that is all they will focus on. You first have to learn the definitions of the character qualities to be able to effectively praise others. Here is our favorite list. (Click here for the incredible list of Character Quality Defintions.) We keep these posted on our refrigerator and we memorize the definitions as a family with motions. The children enjoy making motions to the definitions.

Encouragement goes a long way in good behavior. Saying comments such as, “I’m so happy for you, what a big girl you are you practiced self-control and went potty all by yourself! Great job!” or “Thank you for taking out the trash without even being asked. I’m so encouraged by your initiative. You saw what needed to be done and just did it! You encourage me to have more of a servant’s heart.” These kind of positive statements will make our children seek to become even more of who they should be.

Remember anger outbursts from parents will push our children away and undermine the very right character that we are trying to teach them. Asking God and others forgiveness when we react in anger is the first step to learning to respond correctly. One thing that helped me (Michelle) was to purpose to lower my voice when I felt myself getting angry. (A soft answer turns away wrath. The wrath of man will not bring forth the righteousness of God.) Meaning my anger will not bring about the right behavior I desire to see nurtured in my children. Secondly, Jim Bob heard another father share that he had an anger problem and he asked his family to help him by keeping him accountable. If they noticed him getting angry he gave them permission to respectfully come to him and put their hand on his arm and whisper in his ear and say, “Daddy, I think you are getting angry.” This has been something that we have practiced for years now and by God’s grace we have been able to encourage each other to speak kindly to one another even when we feel angry. Not just Daddy and Momma, but all of us now hold each other accountable. It makes for a much more peaceful happy home.

8. Your family has their own reality TV series! How did you get involved in that and how do you manage to add TV crews to your home and still maintain a smooth-running family life?
It is an exciting adventure following God. Jim Bob felt God wanted him to run for U.S. Senate in 2002. On the day of the election, a photographer with the media ended up snapping a picture of our whole family walking
into the polling place. We found that a few days later that picture ended up getting printed in the New York Times, with a caption stating that this candidate with a lot of kids ran for US Senate in Arkansas and lost.
Weeks later we received a phone call from a freelance writer that had seen the New York Times picture. She asked if she could write a story about our family for the “Ladies Home Journal”. She wrote the article and then the magazine decided not to run it. Months later the writer contacted us again and stated that “Parents Magazine” wanted to run the article and so they sent out a photographer to take a few family pictures.
Months later after that article ran we received a phone call from Bill Hayes with Figure 8 Films who said someone at Discovery Health Channel had seen the Parents Magazine and was asking if they could do a documentary about our family. We prayed about it and felt this would be an opportunity to share with the world that children are a blessing from God. We said the only way we would do it is if they did not edit out our faith, because that is the core of our lives.
They agreed and our first show called “14 Children and Pregnant Again!” ending up becoming the highest rated show ever on Discovery Health Channel. Then they came back and taped about 20 other shows for a TLC reality show series called “17 Kids and Counting” and now we are in the process of filming our second season. We also have had the opportunity to do hundreds of TV, newspapers, magazine & radio interviews with news crews from the US, Italy, Korea, UK, Australia, Russia and other countries around the world.
The main production company Figure 8 Films has been great to work with the last 5 years. They are like family, and our children are excited when they come over. We love going places and doing things as a large family and they follow along for the ride!

9. What made you decide to write a book about your family? What do you hope people will take away from your book?
We have received thousands of emails over the last several years and it has been impossible to answer all of the questions of how and why we live the life that we live...
the life that we live. Our book “The Duggars: 20 and Counting!: Raising one of America’s Largest Families, How They Do It?,” gives readers a more in-depth look into our family and the principles we live by. Our prayer is that it will encourage families of all sizes to individually seek after a deep relationship with God and give practical tips to help strengthen their families. We explain many supernatural miracles we have seen as we have stepped out in faith. Our desire is that this book will turn the hearts of parents to their children and the heart of children to their parents.

10. Nurturing your marriage must be very important, to set a great example to your children. How do you and Jim Bob make time for yourselves in such a busy household?
We purpose to go out for a lunch or dinner date weekly. Grandma (Mary Duggar) has helped us to keep our weekly date by baby-sitting, for which we are extremely grateful. We also purpose to never allow the sun to go down without resolving conflicts.

11. What is the most difficult thing about having a large family?
The hardest thing about raising any number of children is purposing to keep up with their hearts. With as many as we have that is a fulltime job. We try to have regular talks with each one individually on a weekly basis. It is important to learn how to ask the right questions and not have a condemning spirit. They need to know they have a safe place to share their hopes and dreams, challenges and mistakes. This creates a very close relationship.

12. What is the most wonderful thing about having a large family?
It is fun spending time with 19 of your best friends. It is a blast everywhere we go. There is never a dull moment!

13. What are your top five best parenting tips? (For parents with families of all sizes.)
1. Teach our children to love God with all of their heart, soul, mind and strength, and memorize God’s word together as a family.
2. Teach them to have a servant’s heart, leading by your example. Love your neighbor as yourself.
3. Daily read the Proverb of the Day that corresponds with the day of the month and discuss it as a family.
4. Diligently keep up with each child’s attitudes and actions and ask what is going on in their heart. Pray with them one on one letting them lead in prayer and then you closing the prayer time together.
5. Ask God to help you conquer anger because it can destroy your relationship with your children. Praise them ten times more than you correct them.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

WHY THE WORLD NEEDS SPECIAL KIDS

How many times have you heard an expectant mom say, “I don’t care if it is a boy or a girl, as long as the baby is healthy?” But what happens when the baby isn’t healthy? How does one’s world change when a child is diagnosed with major health issues, either before or soon after birth? Is it worth having a child diagnosed with severe special needs in utero if he won’t live long or will have a poor quality of life?

For the contributors to A Special Mother is Born, edited by Leticia Velasquez, the answer to that last question is a resounding “yes.” As a result of her daughter Christina being born with Down Syndrome, Velasquez has become a pro-life crusader, determined to change the statistic that 90 % of children with Down Syndrome are killed via abortion. The parents who share their stories in this book want to educate others about the value and joy of special needs children.

In his inaugural address, Pope Benedict XVI stated that “Each of us is the result of a thought of God. Each of us is willed, each of us is loved, each of us is necessary.” The children profiled in A Special Mother is Born have Down Syndrome, Trisomy 18, autism, brain abnormalities, epilepsy, deafness, blindness, and other challenges. Yet, they have touched the lives of their families and the world around them immeasurably. Some of the children died at very young ages – their parents speak of them as saints in heaven. These are children who never sinned. They are with God interceding for their family members. As Colleen McGuire writes of her daughter Rita who died of Trisomy 18 soon after birth, “I don’t regret one moment of her life. My daughter lived a novena: nine days of love.”

These parents acknowledge the suffering and difficulties involved in raising a special needs child. No parent ever wants to see their child suffer or struggle through life. Yet, the experience has brought them to greater trust in God. Diane Grover writes, “We realized we must surrender it all to God; we must humbly hand it all over to Him. He created this child for His purpose. He created this child for His plans. Whatever comes will happen in His time and in His way.”

Lisa Barker has learned to endure great suffering watching her daughter die. “I’d like to write that everything is going to be okay. It will be, but there is suffering to embrace that I cannot run from. Without Jesus’ life, example and presence, it is impossible to do. But with Him, it can be done, and there can be a sense of peace and joy even in the midst of sorrow.”

Most often, it is fear of the unknown that causes women to abort their special-needs children. Eileen Haupt states, “If only a mother expecting a special needs child could know who her child really is. If only she could feel the joy and the love that she will feel for her baby if she welcomes her into the world. If only she knew how many hearts would be changed by her special baby’s presence. If only she knew, she would never abort.”

There is currently a war going on against special needs children. While those with Down Syndrome have been the primary targets to date due to pre-natal testing, it is only a matter of time before other abnormalities are also targeted. While there are certainly exceptions, the majority of doctors are far too quick to suggest abortion when something is wrong with the baby. They fail to see the blessings and lessons that these children can bring to the world. They fail to acknowledge the inherent worth of every person created by God. We must fight for life for those who cannot speak for themselves.

(Taken from Catholicmom.com)

Thursday, November 3, 2011

CELEBRATE 14 NOV AS LARGE FAMILY DAY.

Now, third child can land you in jail in KeralaTNN | Sep 25, 2011, 02.43AM IST
KOCHI: This is going to be a tough code of conduct. You can be imprisoned for impregnating your own wife. Worst, you could be branded as a `legally disqualified person'.

This will be a reality if the Kerala Women's Code Bill 2011, submitted to the chief minister by a 12-member committee with Justice V R Krishna Iyer in the chair, is implemented in its letter and spirit.

In a bid to redefine Draconian, the Commission on Rights and Welfare of Women and Children feels that nothing lesser than a fine of Rs 10,000 or three months simple' imprisonment deserves to be slapped on the expectant father of a third child. The recommendation is part of the measures intended to encourage population planning for well-being and children's development.

The Kerala Women's Code Bill 2011 maintains that violation of family norms will be deemed a legal disqualification and parents will not be eligible to receive any benefits from government. It insists on that religious and political outfits should not be allowed to discourage population planning and any such effort on their part should be censured by the governor.

The report reads, "No person or institution shall use religion, region, sect, cast, cult or other ulterior inducements for the bearing of more children".

The commission was constituted following a state government order issued on August 7, 2010 to prepare a code for the rights and responsibilities of children and women. Those parents who violate the norms will be regarded as 'legally disqualified person''. The report specifies that children will not be disentitled to any of their rights or claims. It is also suggested to provide a cash incentive of Rs 5,000 to women who marry after the age of 19 and their first child after 20. This benefit will be available for the first two children. Couples below poverty line, who marry after the age of 20 and have their first child after the mother attains the age of 21 will be given Rs 5,000.

The report also has clauses saying medically safe contraceptives and instructive literature should be available free at the time of marriage. Under the public health code facilities for safe abortion should be made free and through hospitals, health care centres in both private and government sector.

It has been proposed to constitute a commission for the implementation of population regulation policy consisting of ten members. Social activists, public personalities, heads of institutions with commitment to the philosophy and policy of the proposed bill can be appointed members.

Religious Minorities Resist Harsh Population Control in India
Christians and Muslims in Kerala, India are protesting a draft law which seeks to control population growth through fines, jail time and loss of government benefits.
The Kerala Women’s Code Bill would impose a fine of 10,000 rupees (US$200) or three months in jail for couples having more than two children, and bar such couples from receiving social benefits from the government. The law, which is being drafted by a committee headed by former Supreme Court Justice V. R. Krishna Iyer, would also bar religious and political organizations from discouraging the use of contraceptives and other “family planning” measures.
Religious minority leaders are strongly opposed to the population control agenda in Kerala, and see the proposed law as an attack not only on their families, but on their religious values. Kerala, located in southwestern India, has a majority Hindu population, with Muslims comprising about 25 percent of the population, and Christians only 19 percent of the population.
The Kerala Catholic Bishops’ Council (KCBC) responded to the proposed law saying it was “anti-democratic and an infringement on the parental rights of the people.”
The law is an attempt to “undermine family values and divide society along communal lines” according to KCBC spokesman Father Stephen Alathara.
“It’s an attempt to curtail religious freedom and faith. We will oppose it,” said Muslim leader Abdul Samad Pukkottur of the state Sunni Youth Federation about the proposed measure.
A Catholic parish in Kerala is offering financial incentives for couples to have large families despite the intentions of some government officials to severely limit population growth.
“Every fifth child born in the family in our parish stands to get richer by 10,000 rupees,” said Salu Mecheril, regional coordinator of the program launched by St Vincent De Paul Forane Church. “It will be deposited [into a fund] in the name of the child.”
“I applaud our brothers and sisters in Kerala for standing up to these draconian anti-life measures,” said Father Shenan J. Boquet, president of Human Life International (HLI). “Punishing families for bringing life into this world should be the last thing on the minds of any government body, and the threats to freedom of religion and freedom of speech must not be enshrined in law.”
“Christians, Muslims and all who respect the dignity of human life must resist the radical population control agenda being imposed in Kerala and around the world,” said Father Boquet.

Kerala bishops respond to ‘two-child policy’ with huge day celebrating large families
Tue Oct 11, 2011 15:53 EST
KERALA, India, October 11, 2011
(LiferSiteNews.com) - The Kerala Catholic Bishops Council (KCBC) has announced that it will organize a day to recognize and celebrate large families, in response to a recently proposed state bill that would penalize families with more that two children.
“We are planning a very big get together of large Catholic families in Kerala on November 14 in Kochi,” said KCBC spokesman, Sabu Jose Chekkontheyil.
“The main aim of the event is to spread the message of life and that a big family is a happy one,” he said according to a CathNewsIndia report.
Chekkontheyil said that some dioceses had organized events to honor large families in the past, “but this will be the first time that we are organizing an event on this scale to convey the message that a large family is bliss and not a burden.”
“Over 5,000 large families from dioceses across the state and from the three different rites will take part in the event,” Chekkontheyil said.
The Kerala Catholic Bishops Council is an association of three rites of the Church in Kerala - the Latin, the Syro Malabar and the Syro Malankara.
Kerala, located on the Malabar coast of southwest India, is considered the most developed state in the country, but has the lowest rate of population growth.
The draft of the Kerala Women’s Code Bill, produced by the Commission on Rights and Welfare for Women and Children under the direction of former Supreme Court Justice V. R. Krishna Iyer, recommends punitive measures including fines of up to 10,000 rupees ($203 USD) or three months jail time for couples who have more than two children. Couples could subsequently be branded as “legally disqualified” from government services.
The proposed bill also seeks to ban religious leaders from encouraging the faithful to have more children.
The KCBC said that restricting the number of children was a violation of human rights and called the draft bill “anti-democratic and an infringement on the parental rights of the people.”
“It is the right of a couple to decide how many children they need, not the state’s. The Catholic Church cannot accept the recommendations made by the committee headed by Justice Iyer,” KCBC spokesman Fr. Stephen Alathara said when the bill was proposed in September.
The draconian two-child policy may never become law, however, because the Kerala State Law Minister, K.M. Mani, rejected the proposal as both not legally sound and harmful to the country’s biggest asset: its people.
“The recommendation to legally restrict the number of children in a family could not be accepted in a democratic country like India,” Mani said at a Kerala Congress (M) Party function last night, according to CathNewsIndia.
“Ours is not a dictatorial system. We cannot impose small family norm by means of legislation. Self-control is the ideal method for family planning,” Mani said.
Other Indian states have initiated and then dropped coercive two-child policies. Although none had previously considered legal sanctions against large families like the Kerala proposal, laws that barred families with more than two children from receiving housing loans, holding government jobs, or gaining admission to public schools were common.
In 2005 the central states of Chattisgarh and Madhya Pradesh declared that they would no longer require adherence to the two-child norm for candidates in local elections. In 2006 the northern state of Haryana reversed a child-restriction law that barred people with more than two children from running for political office or serving as politicians.
Haryana state authorities admitted that the two-child limit has had “disastrous” social consequences, with couples aborting third pregnancies, giving children up for adoption or failing to register a child’s birth, and that the policy had “adverse effects” on women, particularly in poor areas.
The Kerala Catholic Bishops Council’s large family celebration will take place at the Pastoral Orientation Centre (POC) in Kochi on November 14th.
Contact Info:
Secretariat, Pastoral Orientation Centre
P.B. No. 2251, Palarivattom, Kochi - 682 025, Kerala, India
Phone: +91 484 - 2805722, 2805815
Fax: +91 484 - 2806214
Email: kcbc@kcbcsite.com, poc@kcbcsite.com

Thursday, October 27, 2011

Uganda Shows Contraceptives Not the Answer to HIV/AIDS

The fatal danger of relentlessly pushing contraceptives on Uganda and other African countries was laid bare recently in an alarming new report showing that the most popular contraceptive in Eastern and Southern Africa may actually double the risk of contracting HIV. After experiencing success in combating HIV/AIDS in Uganda through an anti-contraception initiative, it’s not surprising to hear that contraceptives are part of, and not a solution to, the problem.
According to research published in The Lancet, women using the injectable birth control depot-medroxyprogesterone acetate (DMPA) became infected with HIV at a rate of 6.61 per 100 persons, compared with 3.78 for those not using that method. When used by HIV-positive women, transmission of HIV to men occurred at a rate of 2.61 per 100 persons compared with 1.51 when the women had used no contraception.
The study involved 3,800 couples in Botswana, Kenya, Rwanda, South Africa, Tanzania, Zambia and Uganda.
Uganda made news in the fight against AIDS over the past decade because President Yoweri Museveni successfully attacked his country’s high HIV/AIDS rate through a program of systematic behavior modification. President Museveni said in 2004 that, “AIDS is mainly a moral, social and economic problem,” and that the best way to fight it is with, “relationships based on love and trust, instead of institutionalized mistrust, which is what the condom is all about.”
The President’s program is called ABC: “Abstain before marriage, Be faithful after, and use Condoms only when absolutely necessary.” The key to the program has always been the strong discouragement of condom use for more than 95 percent of the public, because the Ugandan government is well aware of their high failure rate.
When the ABC program was instituted in 1992, the adult HIV/AIDS infection rate was an astounding 30 percent in the capital of Kampala and other large urban areas, and the national life expectancy for the entire country was a dismal 44 years. As the ABC program took hold, the adult HIV/AIDS infection rate dropped 80 percent in just ten years, to six percent in 2002, and the life expectancy has jumped by eight years.
However, at the beginning of the new millennium, several influences began to cripple the ABC program. Foreign non-governmental organizations (NGOs) began to aggressively undermine the program simply because they could not allow it to succeed. In fact, the program has actually been too successful for the population controllers’ liking, and represents a real threat to their dogma of “Condoms first, condoms last, condoms always.”
Martin Sempa, the “brains” behind the Ugandan success story, is familiar with the thinking of the population controllers. After speaking at a 2006 Toronto AIDS conference, Sempa said that they suffer from a “pathology” of hatred for abstinence and motherhood.
What Sempa called “abstinophobia – fear of sexual abstinence and fidelity as a way of fighting HIV AIDS – and “matriphobia”–” irrational and paranoid fear of programs that promote marriage and motherhood – are “the last gasp of life for a sexual revolution that has gone stale in the West, and which is using the AIDS crisis as a means of keeping itself going.”
However, one must ask why the population controllers are still so motivated to attack African abstinence and African motherhood when the continent is already so sparsely populated. These well-funded NGOs sincerely believe that Africans must shed their “outmoded” and “backwards” cultural norms and join the “developed” world in its unfettered pursuit of unlimited sex and material wealth. Nowhere is this more evident than in Uganda, where a proven way of saving lives is being discarded in favor of ideological enslavement to the condom. The corrupting money from the West is now flooding Uganda — about $1 billion over the past decade.
The result of this “contraceptive imperialism” is as predictable as it is dismal. The Ugandans are becoming desensitized to sex and are beginning to regard their traditional customs as outmoded — which, of course, is precisely the idea.
Uganda has boundless possibilities for pro-life activism. The people naturally love life, the leadership of the nation is almost uniformly pro-life and the bishops and priests are fearless. The population control cartel, however, has shown its sordid talent at corrupting even the most life-loving countries.
The population controllers have demonstrated beyond any possible doubt that they do not care if the HIV/AIDS rate is reduced in Uganda; they only care that their worldview is imposed on the people, and if the result is the deaths of hundreds of thousands, so be it. Their activities have already directly caused the unnecessary deaths of tens of thousands of Ugandans. Not only are they pushing contraceptives that actually promote the HIV epidemic, they are committing human rights abuses on a huge scale with virtual impunity, and are ignoring the laws of this sovereign nation.
LifeNews.com Note: Brian Clowes is Director of Research and Training for Human Life International. He has travelled to over 50 nations worldwide, has written extensively in various media, and has written ten books, including the recently released Pro-Life Pastoral Handbook. With affiliates and associates in over 100 nations worldwide, HLI is the world’s largest international pro-life organization.

Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Now, third child can land you in jail in Kerala

TNN | Sep 25, 2011, 02.43AM IST
KOCHI: This is going to be a tough code of conduct. You can be imprisoned for impregnating your own wife. Worst, you could be branded as a `legally disqualified person'.

This will be a reality if the Kerala Women's Code Bill 2011, submitted to the chief minister by a 12-member committee with Justice V R Krishna Iyer in the chair, is implemented in its letter and spirit.

In a bid to redefine Draconian, the Commission on Rights and Welfare of Women and Children feels that nothing lesser than a fine of Rs 10,000 or three months simple' imprisonment deserves to be slapped on the expectant father of a third child. The recommendation is part of the measures intended to encourage population planning for well-being and children's development.

The Kerala Women's Code Bill 2011 maintains that violation of family norms will be deemed a legal disqualification and parents will not be eligible to receive any benefits from government. It insists on that religious and political outfits should not be allowed to discourage population planning and any such effort on their part should be censured by the governor.

The report reads, "No person or institution shall use religion, region, sect, cast, cult or other ulterior inducements for the bearing of more children".

The commission was constituted following a state government order issued on August 7, 2010 to prepare a code for the rights and responsibilities of children and women. Those parents who violate the norms will be regarded as 'legally disqualified person''. The report specifies that children will not be disentitled to any of their rights or claims. It is also suggested to provide a cash incentive of Rs 5,000 to women who marry after the age of 19 and their first child after 20. This benefit will be available for the first two children. Couples below poverty line, who marry after the age of 20 and have their first child after the mother attains the age of 21 will be given Rs 5,000.

The report also has clauses saying medically safe contraceptives and instructive literature should be available free at the time of marriage. Under the public health code facilities for safe abortion should be made free and through hospitals, health care centres in both private and government sector.

It has been proposed to constitute a commission for the implementation of population regulation policy consisting of ten members. Social activists, public personalities, heads of institutions with commitment to the philosophy and policy of the proposed bill can be appointed members.

Dear Prolifers,
This is disturbing news indeed! Comments please.
Auriel.

Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Dear Prolifers,
We are keen to start a prolife branch of HUMAN LIFE GOA in North Goa and would like your prayers, suggestions and membership. Please leave me a message on my facebook account. Auriel Ribeiro.
Thanks.

Saturday, July 2, 2011

PROLIFE CENTRE IN GOA AT LAST!

Dear Prolifers,
The prolife centre was inaugurated on 26 June 2011 at Borda, Margao. Report on the event came in the Herald in snapshots on page 7. Please refer to it or go to lifeisworthy.org for the entire report and pics. Thanks.
Auriel

Friday, July 1, 2011

Dear Prolifers,
The Prolife team inaugurated their office at Margao on 26th June 2011.
Auriel.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Preterm birth

In humans preterm birth refers to the birth of a baby of less than 37 weeks gestational age. The cause for preterm birth is in many situations elusive and unknown; many factors appear to be associated with the development of preterm birth, making the reduction of preterm birth a challenging proposition.
Premature infants are at greater risk for short and long term complications, including disabilities and impediments in growth and mental development.
In humans whereas the usual definition of preterm birth is birth before 37 weeks gestation, a "premature" infant is one that has not yet reached the level of fetal development that generally allows life outside the womb. In the normal human fetus, several organ systems mature between 34 and 37 weeks, and the fetus reaches adequate maturity by the end of this period. One of the main organs greatly affected by premature birth is the lungs. The lungs are one of the last organs to develop in the womb; because of this, premature babies typically spend the first days/weeks of their life on a ventilator. Prematurity can be reduced to a small extent by using drugs to accelerate maturation of the fetus, and to a greater extent by preventing preterm birth.
Symptoms of imminent spontaneous preterm birth, are signs of premature labor; one sign is four or more uterine contractions in one hour, accompanied by cervical dilatation and effacement. Also, vaginal bleeding in the third trimester, heavy pressure in the pelvis, or abdominal or back pain could be indicators that a preterm birth is about to occur. A watery discharge from the vagina may indicate premature rupture of the membranes that surround the baby.
Preterm-premature babies ("preemies" or "premmies") have an increased risk of death in the first year of life (infant mortality), with most of that occurring in the first month of life (neonatal mortality). Prematurely born infants are also at greater risk for having subsequent serious chronic health problems. A large study on children born between 22 and 25 weeks who were currently at school age found that 46 percent had severe or moderate disabilities such as cerebral palsy, vision or hearing loss and learning problems. 34 percent were mildly disabled and 20 percent had no disabilities, while 12 percent had disabling cerebral palsy.
A number of factors have been identified that are linked to a higher risk of a preterm birth: age at the upper and lower end of the reproductive years, be it more than 35 or less than 18 years of age. Maternal height and weight can also play a role. Pregnancy interval makes a difference as women with a 6 months span or less between pregnancies have a two-fold increase in preterm birth. Studies on type of work and physical activity have given conflicting results, but it is opined that stressful conditions, hard labor, and long hours are probably linked to preterm birth. Women who have undergone previous surgically induced abortions have been shown to have a higher risk of preterm birth. Adequate maternal nutrition is important. Women with a low BMI are at increased risk for preterm birth. Further, women with poor nutritional status may also be deficient in vitamins and minerals. Adequate nutrition is critical for fetal development and a diet low in saturated fat and cholesterol may help reduce the risk of a preterm delivery. Obesity does not directly lead to preterm birth; however, it is associated with diabetes and hypertension which are risk factors by themselves. Women with vaginal bleeding during pregnancy are at higher risk for preterm birth. While bleeding in the third trimester may be a sign of placenta previa or placental abruption – conditions that occur frequently preterm – even earlier bleeding that is not caused by these two conditions is linked to a higher preterm birth rate. Women with abnormal amounts of amniotic fluid, too much (polyhydramnios) or too little (oligohydramnios) are also at risk. The mental status of the women is of significance. Anxiety and depression have been linked to preterm birth. Finally, the use of tobacco, cocaine, and excessive alcohol during pregnancy also increases the chance of preterm delivery. Babies with birth defects are at higher risk of being born preterm.
Obstetric ultrasound has become useful in the assessment of the cervix in women at risk for premature delivery. A short cervix preterm is undesirable: At 24 weeks gestation a cervix length of less than 25 mm defines a risk group for preterm birth. Further, the shorter the cervix the greater the risk. It also has been helpful to use ultrasonography in women with preterm contractions, as those whose cervix length exceeds 30 mm are unlikely to deliver within the next week.
Interventions that should have been initiated prior to pregnancy, can still be instituted during pregnancy including nutritional adjustments, use of vitamin supplements, and smoking cessation. Calcium supplementation as well as supplemental intake of C and E vitamins could not be shown to reduce preterm birth rates. Self-care methods to reduce the risk of preterm birth include proper nutrition, avoiding stress, seeking appropriate medical care, avoiding infections, and the control of preterm birth risk factors (e.g. working long hours while standing on feet, carbon monoxide exposure, domestic abuse, and other factors).
Anti-contraction medications (tocolytics), such as Beta2-agonist drugs (ritodrine, terbutaline, fenoterol), calcium-channel blockers nifedipine and oxytocin antagonists (atosiban) appear only to have a temporary effect in delaying delivery. However, just gaining 48 hours is sufficient to allow the pregnant women to be transferred to a center specialized for management of preterm deliveries and give administered corticosteroids the possibility to reduce neonatal organ immaturity.
Neonatal care
In developed countries premature infants are usually cared for in a neonatal intensive care unit (NICU). The physicians who specialize in the care of very sick or premature babies are known as neonatologists. In the NICU, premature babies are kept under radiant warmers or in incubators (also called isolettes), which are bassinets enclosed in plastic with climate control equipment designed to keep them warm and limit their exposure to germs. Modern neonatal intensive care involves sophisticated measurement of temperature, respiration, cardiac function, oxygenation, and brain activity. Treatments may include fluids and nutrition through intravenous catheters, oxygen supplementation, mechanical ventilation support, and medications. In developing countries where advanced equipment and even electricity may not be available or reliable, simple measures such as kangaroo care (skin to skin warming), encouraging breastfeeding, and basic infection control measures can significantly reduce preterm morbidity and mortality. Bili lights may also be used to treat newborn jaundice (hyperbilirubinemia).
Many children will adjust well during childhood and adolescence, although a large study that followed children born between 22 and 25 weeks found some alarming results. As survival has improved, the focus of interventions directed at the newborn has shifted to reduce long-term disabilities, particularly those related to brain injury. Some of the complications related to prematurity may not be apparent until years after the birth. A long-term study demonstrated that the risks of medical and social disabilities extend into adulthood and are higher with decreasing gestational age at birth and include cerebral palsy, mental retardation, disorders of psychological development, behavior, and emotion, disabilities of vision and hearing, and epilepsy. People born prematurely may be more susceptible to developing depression as teenagers.
Notable preterm births
James Elgin Gill (born on 20 May 1987 in Ottawa, Canada) was the earliest premature baby in the world. He was 128 days premature (21 weeks and 5 days gestation) and weighed 1 pound 6 ounces (624 g). He survived and is quite healthy.
Amillia Taylor is also often cited as the most-premature baby. She was born on 24 October 2006 in Miami, Florida, at 21 weeks and6 days gestation. This report has created some confusion as her gestation was measured from the date of conception (through in-vitro fertilization) rather than the date of her mother's last menstrual period making her appear 2 weeks younger than if gestation was calculated by the more common method. At birth, she was 9 inches (22.86 cm) long and weighed 10 ounces (283 grams). She suffered digestive and respiratory problems, together with a brain hemorrhage.
The record for the smallest premature baby to survive was held for some time by Madeline Mann, who was born at 26 weeks weighing 9.9 oz (280 g) and 9.5 inches (24.13 cm) long. This record was broken in September 2004 by Rumaisa Rahman, who was born in the same hospital at 25 weeks gestation. At birth, she was eight inches (20 cm) long and weighed 244 grams (8.6 ounces). Her twin sister was also a small baby, weighing 563 grams (1 pound 4 ounces) at birth. During pregnancy their mother had suffered from pre-eclampsia, which causes dangerously high blood pressure putting the baby into distress and requiring birth by caesarean section. The larger twin left the hospital at the end of December, while the smaller remained there until 10 February 2005 by which time her weight had increased to1.18 kg (2.6 lb). Generally healthy, the twins had to undergo laser eye surgery to correct vision problems, a common occurrence among premature babies.
The autistic savant Derek Paravicini was born at 25 weeks. The oxygen therapy given during his time in a neonatal intensive care unit rendered him blind and affected his developing brain, resulting in his severe learning disability. Furthermore Paravicini developed autism. However, he also has absolute pitch and his musical abilities developed to genius levels.
The world's smallest premature boy to survive was born in February 2009 at Children's Hospitals and Clinics of Minnesota in Minneapolis, Minnesota. Jonathon Whitehill was born at 25 weeks gestation with a weight of 310 grams (10.9 ounces). He was hospitalized in the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit for five months, and then discharged.
Historical figures who were born prematurely include Johannes Kepler (born in 1571 at 7 months gestation), Isaac Newton (born in 1643, small enough to fit into a quart mug, according to his mother), Winston Churchill (born in 1874 at 7 months gestation), and Anna Pavlova (born in 1885 at 7 months gestation).
The most difficult decisions are about whether or not to resuscitate a newborn baby or admit him or her to neonatal intensive care. And then whether or not to withdraw intensive care and give the child palliative care. The gestational age at which a child is born plays a key part in these decisions.
22 weeks: in the UK and France babies are not normally resuscitated.
23 weeks: in Holland babies are not normally resuscitated at this age or below.
24 weeks: in most countries babies at this gestation are resuscitated.

Friday, May 6, 2011

DEAR FRIENDS,
THE NATIONAL PROLIFE SEMINAR 2011 WILL BE HELD FROM 20- 22 MAY AT RAIA, SALCETE, GOA. I HAVE POSTED THE FRONT PAGE OF THE BROCHURE ABOVE THIS NOTE AND THE DETAILS OF THE THREE DAYS' EVENTS BELOW ( KINDLY SCROLL DOWN). DO KEEP THIS IN YOUR DAILY PRAYER AND PASS THE MESSAGE ON TO YOUR FRIENDS, ACQUAINTANCES AND URGE THEM TO ATTEND IF POSSIBLE. TRY TO MAKE IT AS IT WAS AN EYE-OPENER FOR US AND WE ARE NOW PART OF THIS MOVEMENT IN OUR SMALL WAY THROUGH THIS BLOG AND THIS ARTICLES I WRITE FOR HERALD. GOD BLESS.
AURIEL GLENN n KAN, CHARIS ANN & BABY-TO-COME.

Sunday, April 10, 2011

TO A MOTHER

In the stillness of the night
A whimper breaks out soft
The alert ear listens
And rushes to comfort

A glass falls; the cut is deep
A wail is all it takes
For that earnest soul
To hasten and soothe.

The night is long; the lesson drags
A yawn is stifled
That watchful eye has seen
The brewing mug is ready.

The day has come to bid goodbye
To greet another’s world
Those eyes once filled with love
Now fill with un-staved sorrow.

The tree grows; a gurgling smile
And soon there are fears
A patient hand, a loving hand
Arrives to cope with all.

A head grown white, shoulders drooping
Yet she is the strongest
Her ways are loving solace
She is, yes, a Mother.

Thursday, April 7, 2011

Marie Bellet's Biography

Marie grew up with five sisters and two brothers in a midwestern university town. Often heckled for defying the zero population pressures of the day, she grew up loving the "warmth and confusion" of life in a large family. The experience would come in handy.
Anxious to see a world beyond computers and cornfields, Marie left for Rice University in Houston, where she first got a taste for singing country music. She finished college with a degree in Economics from Swarthmore College in Pennsylvania. After earning an MBA at Vanderbilt in Nashville, Marie sang demos, including duets with Alan Jackson, jingles and back-up vocals on off-hours while working MBA jobs in the healthcare industry.
Marie married in 1987 and moved to Singapore and then Spain, returning four years later with three small children. As Marie's family continued to grow, she began writing songs about life as a housewife and mother in a world that "no longer values these roles." In 1997 she recorded a collection of these songs entitled "What I Wanted To Say." In 2000 she released her second collection entitled, "Ordinary Time" which focuses on the temptations of a culture which encourages women to "have it all." In 2003 Marie released her third collection of story songs and personal reflections entitled "Lighten Up", filled with upbeat reminders to forgive one another and learn how to love. "A New Springtime" was released in 2006 and coincides with the birth of her ninth child. Along with her husband Bill, a "psychologist with sense", who challenges families and couples to rise above themselves and serve each other, Marie offers a different vision of what it means to be a "fulfilled" woman.
"My witness is really just to show up with my kids at the grocery store. For me, that is where the culture war is fought, surrounded by glossy magazines that promise happiness if you shed pounds and obligations."
"My writing began mostly as an alternative to rearranging the furniture. It has become my way to encourage those who want to rebel against the self-centered misery of our time. To make sacrifices for marriage and children is not stupidity or victimization. It is the noblest thing we do."
Marie admits that life at home as a mother can be frustrating. In fact, that is what her music is about: the struggle and the value of that struggle -- "My music is about the drama of everyday life-staying in love, going through the days' routine, 'One more time, with feeling!' I want to tell other mothers that they are not crazy or alone. If my music can do that, it will all be worthwhile."

Marie's Music
A New Springtime
Often lighthearted, always thought provoking lyrics describe the details of our modern lives and enkindle hope in new beginnings. Outstanding Nashville musicians cradle Marie's voice in a light mixture of bluegrass, jazz and folk as she reminds us of our capacity to love. A New Springtime is dedicated to John Paul II and the new springtime he foretold.

Lighten Up
Are you burnt out on the busyness and self-importance of modern life? Then you need Lighten Up! With a playful hint of bluegrass, these story songs and radically honest reflections urge us to forgive and to see the humor, the beauty and the sacred in those who fill our everyday lives.

Ordinary Time
Ordinary Time tells the stories of ordinary people making their way in our fast and fabulous world. Twelve thought provoking songs encourage us to laugh at our attempts to have it all and remind us of the everyday drama and nobility of ordinary lives lived faithfully.

What I Wanted To Say
Drawing on her experience as a mother of eight, Marie's smooth voice and storytelling lyrics combine familiar detail and a gentle sense of humor to sing of the everyday life of a mother and wife striving for holiness in the modern world. Through her light acoustic style, she offers hope and encouragement to those willing to sacrifice for marriage and family.

Monday, April 4, 2011

PRE-TEENS NEED TO LEARN RESPECT FOR LIFE

Laws uphold the truth? Questionable. Time and time again, history has proven that laws alone do not uphold the truth. The recent news that pre-teen petting is to go legal is something every mature adult will agree that, like homosexuality, once made legal, will give immature and immoral people the license to create an environment that may not have existed before. Its like saying schizophrenia is OK just because it has been made legal.

The moot question is: why do teenagers indulge in such practices? One, perhaps, because parents cease to physically affirm them by a loving touch, a hug or just cuddling them like they instinctively did to them as kids. Second, their minds are experiencing emotional turmoil as the body matures physically and sensations they never felt before scares and excites them all at the same time.

This is the time when parents must educate and reassure their children about the facts, not an impersonal sex educator in school or an absurd law that does not foresee that such petting leads to sexual intercourse, which protected by unreliable contraception eventually leads to abortion, which, by the way, has already been made legal. It is a straight pathway to destruction and death. The moral downslide is inevitable. America is awakening to this bitter fact, are we to go their way before we too realize the pitfalls of passively aping them?

And whoever said that this has no repercussions on society? To say it is my business to have sex and that it does not affect anyone is utter rubbish. After every broken relationship, which uses sex as its pivot for survival, there is heartbreak and hatred. The partner rejected becomes bitter and may even give up on life altogether. Abortion is not a rosy dream as it has been portrayed. (I recently watched a testimony of a mother whose daughter had a botched abortion, went into a coma and is now bedridden for life. Not only was her life destroyed but the whole family lives a nightmare, wishing things had been done differently. And the abortionist still practices without fear.)

I think the statement Dr. N. Kamat made about social community counseling seems like a sound alternative, provided it is not another form of ‘safe sex’ drive. What our youngsters need is to learn how to be chaste before and after marriage. Safe sex only leads to promiscuity and infidelity.

The Catholic Church offers counseling to hurting marriages on the brink of separation or divorce and marriages that just need finishing touches to make them more fruitful are given guidance and counseling at Marriage Encounter Weekends, engaged couples are counseled through a programme called Engaged Encounter and follow-up is done on a regular basis. There is also an ongoing programme to train couples in Natural Family Planning conducted by the Couple to Couple League. These programmes are for all, irrespective of religion and individual counseling can also be availed of at the Family Centre in Panjim. Unfortunately, people do not avail of these programmes until things really spiral out of control and then too they will rather revel in self-pity and give up on their marriages than try to make things work.

Coming back to pre-teens, the family center needs to put into place its own sex education programme in schools covering areas like awareness of one’s body and how it must be taken care of by abstinence before marriage and chastity after in order to have proper respect for life.

Personally, I recall that, for lack of such sound teaching by my parents and being exposed to wrong education from the media and friends, my teen years did go awry. And I regret those episodes with all my heart. As a mother of a teenage son, I constantly talk to him about respect for life and chastity, and encourage him to educate his friends as well. As a parent, it is my duty and privilege to do this much for my child and the community we live in.

Can parents of teens pull up their socks and do the right thing for your child? Do we need a law to take away our rights and responsibilities as loving protectors of our children? Are we ourselves giving good example by our own fidelity and responsibility to our spouses and children? These are the questions that must be answered and acted upon. I rest my case.

Sunday, April 3, 2011

GOOD NEWS! Violet delivered a beautiful baby boy last Monday. She was in hospital with complications-placenta previa and finally they operated on Monday. But due to excessive bleeding, she had to lose the uterus, which was very upsetting for the family. This is their fifth child, a blessing and a miracle. The children are Esmee, Ethel, Euban, Evaly and now the son born will have beginning two letters EW in his name.Please pray for this unique family as Milagres the father is a prolife leader in Goa. HEis President of Artists for Life, Goa which is an affiliate of HLI International.
Auriel.

Tuesday, March 15, 2011

MY LITTLE PRINCESS

“All awaited your arrival in this world Sadness prevailed when you turned out a girl” These two lines were penned by my grandfather in one of his poems on my birth.
I was the first grandchild in the Menezes household. My father was considered the genius of the family; he had a Master’s in Physics and held a good position as Scientific officer at BARC, Trombay. Naturally, his parents expected only the best from him and for him. They hoped for a grandson to carry on the family name. God had other plans however and I was sent instead.
My grandfather got over the disappointment soon enough and I became his darling. My grandmother never stopped hoping and finally, when there was no heir, she blamed my mother, taunted my father and showed marked preference for her daughter’s son who was born a year later.
I grew up hearing harsh words spoken to my mother by a drunken father who, disappointed at his inability to produce any more, blamed her for the trouble. I became a tomboy in rebellion, seeking love and acceptance outside the home. I decided early on in my life that I wanted my children to be all girls so I could love them to Eternity and back.
Recently, I read an article on abortion and how female foeticide is on the increase and I wept. When we do not want something, we dump it out as if it is garbage, never realizing that there are others who may need that very same thing. A friend of mine struggled for years to get a child, praying and begging God, even going to ashrams and pilgrimages, but to no avail. Finally, against the wishes of their family, they adopted a beautiful baby boy. Now they are so happy and desire to adopt another. I hope it is a girl this time, for my sake.
Every time I visit my family doctor, he asks me if I am expecting again and if I need to go in for an operation. My answer: NFP and abstinence. Fact is, I don’t want to play around with my body. Do the best with what God has offered, and trust him to plan, I say.
We tried for a girl and had three boys before we got our little Princess. Some are not so fortunate. I know of people with strings of boys or girls who have given up trying. I wanted a large family and God gave me one. I did make the mistake of rejecting His gift at one point in my life (after my first-born) and for years I allowed fear to rule. When God uprooted that fear and forgave me, I full-throttled and had three in a line, spaced beautifully 3 years apart.
For those who say abortion is no big deal, you should watch the documentary “Eclipse of Reason”. Dr. Bernard Nathanson shows, with lurid clarity, the horrors of this cruel act, where body parts are brutally wrenched from fully formed torsos, the head crushed as the final blow. The first time I saw EoR, I sobbed hysterically, holding my hands over my womb, mourning for the child I had destroyed.
Every year, on March 25th, the feast of the Annunciation of the Lord, the Catholic Church celebrates the Day of the Unborn to mourn the deaths of innocent children at the hands of those who reject them. Mother Mary said a resounding “Yes” even though she was unmarried and a virgin. Her courage and obedience are virtues all mothers need to emulate especially when faced with the difficult choice of abortion. People abort for various reasons. I do not judge them but rather ask them to choose wisely, for the sake of the baby and their own mental health. Research has shown that women, and even men, suffer psychologically when confronted with their guilt. It takes inner healing to gain freedom from that great burden.
The whole of humanity loses out too because each child brings new hope into this world; each has a destiny to fulfill. I would hate to think what this world would be without Mother Teresa, Mahatma Gandhi, Dr. Nelson Mandela, Albert Einstein and You.
So let us always welcome little children no matter what the sex, as Jesus did -“Let the children come to me and do not stop them, for the Kingdom of God belongs to such as these.”
Let us also become like little children - simple, pure of heart, forgiving, courageous and full of joy and laughter, for Jesus also said “Unless you become like children, you will never enter the Kingdom of heaven.”
Our little princess is our joy; a diamond in our crown. She’s a blessing to her brothers, and a constant reminder that God did not send her right at the beginning because, like at the Wedding feast at Cana, He always keeps the best for the last!



SEX-SELECTIVE ILLEGAL ABORTIONS ARE ON THE RISE IN INDIA

NEW DELHI: Given the frantic preference for a male child in India, every year about four million women risk their lives and get illegal abortions done.
Many pregnant women die in the process but their deaths are never reported by the family members or by those who carry out these sex-selective abortions.
According to the World Health Organisation, in a year about 15 million illegitimate abortions take place in the world. Most of these happen in Asian countries. Consequently, more deaths take place in these parts of the world. In India, most of these abortions are done in unhygienic conditions, thereby risking the lives of women to a host of infections which may turn fatal.
The Capital too witnesses a large number of illegal abortions. With the high rate of population growth—an increase of about 50% over the last decade—illegal clinics promising secret abortions have mushroomed all over. This is despite the fact that the Medical Termination of Pregnancy Act says that abortions can take place only in government institutions or medical establishments approved by the government.
In a survey conducted under the Union government’s family welfare programme, in Delhi more than 25,000 abortions were conducted. But these are only those carried out in approved centers. Of these 94% were conducted on women who were within the first 12 weeks of their pregnancies. The rest were between 12 and 20 weeks. It is important to note that by the 10th or 11th week, it is possible to make out the sex of the foetus.
According to the survey, almost 66% women sought an abortion due to the failure of contraceptive devices. About 18% of the abortions were justified saying “ pregnancy may cause grave injury to the mental health of the mother” and for another 12% the reason read “ grave injury to physical health of the mother”.
But there is another reason too. Parivar Sewa Sansthan, a voluntary organization which runs four health clinics in Delhi, conducts about 12,000 legal abortions in a year. The organisation’s deputy general manager (clinic division), Poonam Arora, points out: “ We get a number of women who come to us for abortion after having found out they were carrying female fetuses. We counsel them and send them back home. But I am sure a large number of them go to private clinics and eventually get rid of the foetus.”

Thursday, February 24, 2011

A NEW BABY!

The examinations were finally over and the vacations had begun. Sahir and his friend Kyle were playing at the community park one evening. It was a lovely summer day; the sun stayed longer in the sky to watch the two friends enjoy their holiday together. The gulmohar tree was in full blossom, its flowers strewn thickly along the garden path, like a red carpet for cine stars at the IFFI. The park was full of children, celebrating the commencing of the summer vacations with gusto. Sahir’s mother sat on a bench, close to the playground area, keeping a close watch on her son. Kyle’s mother, who was expecting a third child, sat next to her, her hands swiftly working the knitting needles as she chatted non-stop.
The two boys took turns at the swing, then ran to climb the rungs of the slide ladder. WOOOSH! They slid down the slippery slide one by one, then ran back to have another go at it. Sahir turned to wave at his mother. He saw her listening intently to Kyle’s mom, her face expressing shock at something the other woman was saying. From time to time, she nodded her head but spoke very little.
Play over, the two boys left the park with their moms. As they neared the building where they both lived, Kyle’s mother said, “Asha, think about what I said, will you? One must decide with wisdom about these things, you know.”
When Sahir’s dad came home from work, his wife gave him a steaming cup of tea with a plateful of spicy pakodas, then told Sahir to go up to his room. Sahir was curious! What was the secret all about, he wondered. First, Aunty Martha, now his Dad! Why didn’t his mother want him to hear what was being said? He decided to eavesdrop. Quietly, he tiptoed down towards his parents’ bedroom and listened with his ear to the keyhole.
“Ashu, why are you upset? It is time we planned anyway. Martha is right, we need to do this now before it is too late.” he heard his father reason. “But I am not sure I want to go through this now. My promotion is due at the office. I may never get a golden opportunity like this again. Can we not wait?” His mother sounded disturbed as she pleaded with her husband. There was a moment’s silence, followed by a muffled sob.
Sahir could not bear the suspense any longer. He burst into the room, ran to his mother and, hugging her around the waist, he cried, “Mama, don’t cry. I don’t want you to cry. Dad, make her happy again. Don’t make her cry.” His mother looked perplexed at the little boy’s agitation. His father sat him on the bed, calmed him down and then announced, “Sahir, we want you to have a new baby. Maybe a brother, but it could be a sister too. That is all we were talking about. Well, what do you say?”
Sahir could not contain his excitement. A BABY! A NEW BABY! WHOOPEE! He ran all around the room, cheering in delight and kissed his mother’s hand. “Mama, my prayers are answered at last! How I wished and wished for a brother, or even a sister, to play with. God takes a long time to answer prayers, doesn’t he? But he is going to give me my wish in the end. Oh, thank you mama. I will take good care of you. I will help you in the kitchen, water the plants for you, even massage your feet when you are tired.” Saying this, Sahir kissed his mother again and danced out of the room, all eager to make plans for the new arrival.
In the bedroom, his mother looked at her husband with tears in her eyes. “I didn’t know, Ji. I was being selfish, I realize that now. How can I put a job before my own son? What is the use of my promotion if it won’t make Sahir happy?” Her husband reached out for her as she continued, “I will have to tell the boss tomorrow itself so he can choose someone else. If God wills it, I may get another chance at a promotion, but right now, my family comes first. Martha was right as always.” She held her husband’s hand as she rested her head on his shoulder.

Wednesday, February 2, 2011

PRE-TEENS NEED TO LEARN RESPECT FOR LIFE

Laws uphold the truth? Questionable. Time and time again, history has proven that laws alone do not uphold the truth. The recent news that pre-teen petting is to go legal is something every mature adult will agree that, like homosexuality, once made legal, will give immature and immoral people the license to create an environment that may not have existed before. Its like saying schizophrenia is OK just because it has been made legal.

The moot question is: why do teenagers indulge in such practices? One, perhaps, because parents cease to physically affirm them by a loving touch, a hug or just cuddling them like they instinctively did to them as kids. Second, their minds are experiencing emotional turmoil as the body matures physically and sensations they never felt before scares and excites them all at the same time.

This is the time when parents must educate and reassure their children about the facts, not an impersonal sex educator in school or an absurd law that does not foresee that such petting leads to sexual intercourse, which protected by unreliable contraception eventually leads to abortion, which, by the way, has already been made legal. It is a straight pathway to destruction and death. The moral downslide is inevitable. America is awakening to this bitter fact, are we to go their way before we too realize the pitfalls of passively aping them?

And whoever said that this has no repercussions on society? To say it is my business to have sex and that it does not affect anyone is utter rubbish. After every broken relationship, which uses sex as its pivot for survival, there is heartbreak and hatred. The partner rejected becomes bitter and may even give up on life altogether. Abortion is not a rosy dream as it has been portrayed. (I recently watched a testimony of a mother whose daughter had a botched abortion, went into a coma and is now bedridden for life. Not only was her life destroyed but the whole family lives a nightmare, wishing things had been done differently. And the abortionist still practices without fear.)

I think the statement Dr. N. Kamat made about social community counseling seems like a sound alternative, provided it is not another form of ‘safe sex’ drive. What our youngsters need is to learn how to be chaste before and after marriage. Safe sex only leads to promiscuity and infidelity.

The Catholic Church offers counseling to hurting marriages on the brink of separation or divorce and marriages that just need finishing touches to make them more fruitful are given guidance and counseling at Marriage Encounter Weekends, engaged couples are counseled through a programme called Engaged Encounter and follow-up is done on a regular basis. There is also an ongoing programme to train couples in Natural Family Planning conducted by the Couple to Couple League. These programmes are for all, irrespective of religion and individual counseling can also be availed of at the Family Centre in Panjim. Unfortunately, people do not avail of these programmes until things really spiral out of control and then too they will rather revel in self-pity and give up on their marriages than try to make things work.

Coming back to pre-teens, the family center needs to put into place its own sex education programme in schools covering areas like awareness of one’s body and how it must be taken care of by abstinence before marriage and chastity after in order to have proper respect for life.

Personally, I recall that, for lack of such sound teaching by my parents and being exposed to wrong education from the media and friends, my teen years did go awry. And I regret those episodes with all my heart. As a mother of a teenage son, I constantly talk to him about respect for life and chastity, and encourage him to educate his friends as well. As a parent, it is my duty and privilege to do this much for my child and the community we live in.

Can parents of teens pull up their socks and do the right thing for your child? Do we need a law to take away our rights and responsibilities as loving protectors of our children? Are we ourselves giving good example by our own fidelity and responsibility to our spouses and children? These are the questions that must be answered and acted upon. I rest my case.

Friday, January 28, 2011

My name is Sarah
I am but three,
my eyes are swollen
I cannot see.

I must be stupid,
I must be bad,
what else could have made
my daddy so mad?

I wish I were better,
I wish I weren't ugly,
then maybe my Mommy
would still want to hug me.

I can't speak at all,
I can't do a wrong
or else I'm locked up
all the day long.

When I awake I'm all alone
the house is dark
my folks aren't home.

When my Mommy does come
I'll try and be nice,
so maybe I'll get just

one whipping tonight.

Don't make a sound!
I just heard a car
my daddy is back
from Charlie's Bar.

I hear him curse
my name he calls
I press myself
against the wall.

I try and hide
from his evil eyes
I'm so afraid now
I'm starting to cry.

He finds me weeping
he shouts ugly words,
he says its my fault
that he suffers at work.

He slaps me and hits me
and yells at me more,
I finally get free
and I run for the door. He's already locked it
and I start to bawl,
he takes me and throws me
against the hard wall.

I fall to the floor
with my bones nearly broken,
and my daddy continues
with more bad words spoken.

'I'm sorry!' I scream
but its now much too late
his face has been twisted
into unimaginable hate.

The hurt and the pain
again and again
oh please God, have mercy!
oh please let it end!

And he finally stops
and heads for the door,
while I lay there motionless
sprawled on the floor.

My name is Sarah
and I am but three,
tonight my daddy
murdered me.
There are thousands of kids out there just like Sarah. And you can help

It sickens me to my soul to acknowledge that this stuff does happen, and that people like her dad do live in our society, and pray for child abuse to wither out and die, but also pray for the safety of our youth.

*~*~* JOIN THE FIGHT AGAINST CHILD ABUSE *~*~

Thursday, January 20, 2011

MARGARET SANGER - PART TWO

Family planning clinics


Margaret Sanger, birth control advocate, and her two sons.
In 1915 Sanger visited a Dutch birth control clinic at which she became convinced that a diaphragm was actually a more effective means of contraception than the suppositories and douches that she had been distributing back in the United States.[5] This realization began the slow introduction of the diaphragm to the United States with Sanger later illegally smuggling them into the country.[5]
In 1916, Sanger published What Every Girl Should Know, which was later widely distributed as one of the E. Haldeman-Julius "Little Blue Books". It provided information about such topics as menstruation and sexuality in adolescents. It was followed in 1917 by What Every Mother Should Know. She also launched the monthly periodical The Birth Control Review and Birth Control News and contributed articles on health to the Socialist Party paper, The Call.
On October 16, 1916, Sanger opened a family planning and birth control clinic at 46 Amboy St. in the Brownsville neighborhood of Brooklyn, the first of its kind in the United States. It was raided 9 days later by the police. She served 30 days in prison. An initial appeal was rejected but in 1918 an opinion written by Judge Frederick E. Crane of the New York Court of Appeals allowed doctors to prescribe contraception.
Sanger founded the American Birth Control League (ABCL) in 1921. In 1922 she traveled to Japan to work with Japanese feminist Kato Shidzue promoting birth control; over the next several years, she would return another six times for this purpose. In this year she married her second husband, oil tycoon James Noah H. Slee.
In 1923 under the auspices of the ABCL, she established the Clinical Research Bureau (CRB). Sanger eventually found a loophole in the system when she had learned that physicians were exempt from the law that prohibited the distribution of contraceptive information to women when prescribed for medical reasons.[5] With the help of her wealthy supporters, Sanger was finally able to open the first legal birth control clinic that was staffed entirely by female doctors and social workers. It was the first legal birth control clinic in the U.S. (renamed Margaret Sanger Research Bureau in 1940). It received crucial grants from John D. Rockefeller, Jr.'s Bureau of Social Hygiene from 1924 onward. The grants were made anonymously to avoid public exposure of the Rockefeller name to her agenda. The family also consistently supported her ongoing efforts in regard to population control.[10]
Also in 1923 she formed the National Committee on Federal Legislation for Birth Control and served as its president until its dissolution in 1937 after birth control, under medical supervision, was legalized in many states. In 1927 Sanger helped organize the first World Population Conference in Geneva.
Between 1921 and 1926 Sanger received over a million letters from mothers requesting information on birth control.[citation needed] From 1916 on she lectured "in many places—halls, churches, women's clubs, homes, theaters" to "many types of audiences—cotton workers, churchmen, liberals, socialists, scientists, clubmen, and fashionable, philanthropically minded women."[11]
In 1926 Sanger gave a lecture on birth control to the women's auxiliary of the Ku Klux Klan in Silver Lake, New Jersey.[12] She described it as "one of the weirdest experiences I had in lecturing," and added that she had to use only "the most elementary terms, as though I were trying to make children understand."[12] Sanger's talk was well-received by the group and as a result "a dozen invitations to similar groups were proffered."[12]
In 1928 Sanger resigned as the president of the ABCL, severing all legal ties, and took full control of the CRB, renaming it the Birth Control Clinical Research Bureau.[13] Two years later, she became president of the Birth Control International Information Center. In January 1932 she addressed the New History Society, an organization founded by Mirza Ahmad Sohrab and Julie Chanler; this address would later become the basis for an article entitled A Plan for Peace.
In 1937 Sanger became chairperson of the Birth Control Council of America and launched two publications, The Birth Control Review and The Birth Control News. From 1939 to 1942 she was an honorary delegate of the Birth Control Federation of America, which included a supervisory role with the Negro Project, alongside Mary Lasker and Clarence Gamble.[14][15] From 1952 to 1959 she served as president of the International Planned Parenthood Federation; at the time it was the largest private international "family planning" organization.
In the early 1960s Sanger promoted the use of the newly-available birth control pill. She toured Europe, Africa and Asia lecturing and helping to establish clinics.
Sanger died in 1966 in Tucson, Arizona, 8 days shy of her 87th birthday and only a few months after the Griswold v. Connecticut decision, which legalized birth control for married couples in the U.S., the apex of her 50-year agenda.
Sanger's books include Woman and the New Race (1920), The Pivot of Civilization (1922), Happiness in Marriage (1926), My Fight For Birth Control (1931) and an autobiography (1938).
The book, Motherhood in Bondage, is a large compilation of actual letters that were written to Margaret Sanger in desperation by thousands of women who were begging to be given information on how they could prevent unwanted pregnancies for a vast number of different reasons.[16]
[edit] Philosophy
Although Sanger was greatly influenced by her father, her mother's death left her with a deep sense of dissatisfaction concerning her own and society's understanding of women's health and childbirth. She also criticized the censorship of her message about sexuality and contraceptives by the civil and religious authorities as an effort by men to keep women in submission. An atheist, Sanger attacked Christian leaders opposed to her message, accusing them of Obscurantism and insensitivity to women's concerns. Sanger was particularly critical of the lack of awareness of the dangers of and the scarcity of treatment opportunities for venereal disease among women. She claimed that these social ills were the result of the male establishment's intentionally keeping women in ignorance. Sanger also deplored the contemporary absence of regulations requiring registration of people diagnosed with venereal diseases (which she contrasted with mandatory registration of those with infectious diseases such as measles).
Sanger was also an avowed socialist, blaming what she saw as the evils of contemporary capitalism for the unsatisfactory conditions of young white working-class women. Her very personal views on this issue are evident in the last pages of What Every Girl Should Know.
[edit] Psychology of sexuality
While Sanger's understanding of and practical approach to human physiology were progressive for her times, her thoughts on the psychology of human sexuality place her squarely in the pre-Freudian 19th century[original research?]. Birth control, it would appear, was for her more a means to limit the undesirable side effects of sex than a way of liberating men and women to enjoy it[original research?]. In What Every Girl Should Know, she wrote: "Every normal man and woman has the power to control and direct his sexual impulse. Men and woman who have it in control and constantly use their brain cells thinking deeply, are never sensual." Sexuality, for her, was a kind of weakness, and surmounting it indicated strength.
Sanger was also influenced by psychologist Havelock Ellis, especially in regards to his theories on female sexuality and its importance.[5] His views inspired Sanger to broaden her arguments for birth control claiming that in addition to an already large number of reasons, it would also fulfill a critical psychological need by enabling women to fully enjoy sexual relations, free from the fear of an unwanted pregnancy.[5] After Sanger and her husband divorced later on, Sanger had an affair with Ellis and also reportedly had an intimate relationship with H.G. Wells.[5]
Though sex cells are placed in a part of the anatomy for the essential purpose of easily expelling them into the female for the purpose of reproduction, there are other elements in the sexual fluid which are the essence of blood, nerve, brain, and muscle. When redirected in to the building and strengthening of these, we find men or women of the greatest endurance greatest magnetic power. A girl can waste her creative powers by brooding over a love affair to the extent of exhausting her system, with the results not unlike the effects of masturbation and debauchery.[17]
Early in her writings, Sanger, like many Americans in the early 20th Century, sometimes entertained archaic thoughts on human development:
It is said that a fish as large as a man has a brain no larger than the kernel of an almond. In all fish and reptiles where there is no great brain development, there is also no conscious sexual control. The lower down in the scale of human development we go the less sexual control we find. It is said that the aboriginal Australian, the lowest known species of the human family, just a step higher than the chimpanzee in brain development, has so little sexual control that police authority alone prevents him from obtaining sexual satisfaction on the streets.[18]
Sanger, at that time, wrote that masturbation was unwise or even dangerous:
In my experience as a trained nurse while attending persons afflicted with various and often revolting diseases, no matter what their ailments, I have never found any one so repulsive as the chronic masturbator. It would be difficult not to fill page upon page of heartrending confessions made by young girls, whose lives were blighted by this pernicious habit, always begun so innocently, for even after they have ceased the habit, they find themselves incapable of any relief in the natural act. [...] Perhaps the greatest physical danger to the chronic masturbator is the inability to perform the sexual act naturally.[19]
For her, masturbation was not just a physical act, it was a mental state:
In the boy or girl past puberty, we find one of the most dangerous forms of masturbation, i.e., mental masturbation, which consists of forming mental pictures, or thinking obscene or voluptuous pictures. This form is considered especially harmful to the brain, for the habit becomes so fixed that it is almost impossible to free the thoughts from lustful pictures.[20]
[edit] Eugenics and euthanasia
Sanger was a proponent of negative eugenics, a social philosophy which claims that human hereditary traits can be improved through social intervention. Sanger's eugenic policies ran to an exclusionary immigration policy, free access to birth control methods and full family-planning autonomy for the able-minded, and compulsory segregation or sterilization for the profoundly retarded. She expressly denounced euthanasia as a eugenics tool.
In A Plan for Peace (1932), for example, Sanger proposed a congressional department to:
Keep the doors of immigration closed to the entrance of certain aliens whose condition is known to be detrimental to the stamina of the race, such as feebleminded, idiots, morons, insane, syphilitic, epileptic, criminal, professional prostitutes, and others in this class barred by the immigration laws of 1924.[21]
And, following:
Apply a stern and rigid policy of sterilization and segregation to that grade of population whose progeny is already tainted or whose inheritance is such that objectionable traits may be transmitted to offspring.[21]
Sanger saw birth control as a means to prevent "dysgenic" children from being born into a disadvantaged life, and dismissed "positive eugenics" (which promoted greater fertility for the "fitter" upper classes) as impractical. Though many leaders in the negative eugenics movement were calling for active euthanasia of the "unfit," Sanger spoke out against such methods. She believed that women with the power and knowledge of birth control were in the best position to produce "fit" children. She rejected any type of eugenics that would take control out of the hands of those actually giving birth.
Taking sharp issue in plain words with certain other[22] eugenicists, however, Margaret Sanger completely rejected the idea of gassing the unfit. 'Nor do we believe,' wrote Sanger in Pivot of Civilization, 'that the community could or should send to the lethal chamber the defective progeny resulting from irresponsible and unintelligent breeding.'[23][24]
Sanger's views thus broke from those proposing Nazi eugenics—an aggressive, and lethal, program. She wrote in a 1933 letter:
"All the news from Germany is sad & horrible, and to me more dangerous than any other war going on any where because it has so many good people who applaud the atrocities & claim its right. The sudden antagonism in Germany against the Jews & the vitriolic hatred of them is spreading underground here & is far more dangerous than the aggressive policy of the Japanese in Manchuria.."[25]
Sanger believed the responsibility for birth control should remain in the hands of able-minded individual parents rather than the state, and that self-determining motherhood was the only unshakable foundation for racial betterment; she wrote:
"The campaign for birth control is not merely of eugenic value, but is practically identical with the final aims of eugenics.... We are convinced that racial regeneration, like individual regeneration, must come 'from within.' That is, it must be autonomous, self-directive, and not imposed from without."[26]
We maintain that a woman possessing an adequate knowledge of her reproductive functions is the best judge of the time and conditions under which her child should be brought into the world. We further maintain that it is her right, regardless of all other considerations, to determine whether she shall bear children or not, and how many children she shall bear if she chooses to become a mother... Only upon a free, self-determining motherhood can rest any unshakable structure of racial betterment.[27]
She advocated coercion to prevent the "undeniably feeble-minded" from procreating;
"The undeniably feeble-minded should, indeed, not only be discouraged but prevented from propagating their kind."[28]
Her first pamphlet read:
It is a vicious cycle; ignorance breeds poverty and poverty breeds ignorance. There is only one cure for both, and that is to stop breeding these things. Stop bringing to birth children whose inheritance cannot be one of health or intelligence. Stop bringing into the world children whose parents cannot provide for them. Herein lies the key of civilization. For upon the foundation of an enlightened and voluntary motherhood shall a future civilization emerge.[29]
[edit] Freedom of speech
Sanger was an avid defender of free speech who was arrested at least eight times for expressing her views in a time when speaking publicly in favor of birth control was illegal. She stated in interviews that she had been influenced by the agnostic orator Robert G. Ingersoll, who spoke in her hometown when she was 12 years old.[30]
[edit] Abortion and related issues
In a chapter from Woman and the New Race (1920) entitled "Contraceptives or Abortion?," Sanger wrote, "While there are cases where even the law recognizes an abortion as justifiable if recommended by a physician, I assert that the hundreds of thousands of abortions performed in America each year are a disgrace to civilization."[31]
Roger Streitmatter has claimed that Sanger's opposition to abortion stemmed primarily from a concern for the dangers to the mother rather than moral issues.[32] Nonetheless, in her 1938 autobiography, Sanger notes that her 1916 opposition to abortion was based on the taking of life: "To each group we explained what contraception was; that abortion was the wrong way—no matter how early it was performed it was taking life; that contraception was the better way, the safer way—it took a little time, a little trouble, but was well worth while in the long run, because life had not yet begun."[33]
In a 1916 edition of Family Limitation, Sanger advised women douche with boric acid and to take quinine to prevent implantation. She wrote further, "No one can doubt that there are times when an abortion is justifiable but they will become unnecessary when care is taken to prevent conception. This is the only cure for abortions."[34]
[edit] Legacy
Sanger remains a controversial figure. While she is widely credited as a leader of the modern birth control movement, and remains an iconic figure for the American reproductive rights movements, pro-life groups condemn Sanger's views, attributing her efforts to promote birth control to a desire to "purify" the human race through eugenics, and even to eliminate minority races by placing birth control clinics in minority neighborhoods.[35] Despite allegations of racism,[36] Sanger's work with minorities earned the respect of some civil rights leaders such as Martin Luther King, Jr. according to Planned Parenthood Federation of America.[37] In their biographical article about Margaret Sanger, Planned Parenthood notes:
In 1930, Sanger opened a family planning clinic in Harlem that sought to enlist support for contraceptive use and to bring the benefits of family planning to women who were denied access to their city's health and social services. Staffed by a black physician and black social worker, the clinic was endorsed by The Amsterdam News (the powerful local newspaper), the Abyssinian Baptist Church, the Urban League, and the black community's elder statesman, W. E. B. Du Bois.[38]
In 1957, the American Humanist Association named her Humanist of the Year.
A residential building is named after her on the Stony Brook University campus.
Sanger's story has been the subject of films, including Choices of the Heart: The Margaret Sanger Story starring Dana Delany and Henry Czerny,[39] and Margaret Sanger: A Public Nuisance (1992).[40]
TAKEN FROM WIKIPEDIA.